L O V E

Love. What does love means? A question so simple with an answer of great depth.

'I love chocolates', 'I love going on holidays', 'I love this song', 'I love Christmas'... sometimes, I use the word so freely, it often represents an act, a gift or anything for that matter that brings me joy and makes me smile.

More often than not, 'I love you' is so easy to say,write,message but is always put to test when situation arises. One's action reflects the intensity of the love, the true essence of how deep and sacrificial it can be, whether it's really about the person we love or more about ourselves. Some profess to love deeply but their actions seem to centered around themselves, out of fear, out of denial, out of lies. Some speak little of their love but their actions show the depth of their love, so consistence, so still, so quiet yet so real. Some are spontaneous with their love while others are slow to love.

So really, what does love means to me? Besides the 5 general love languages of touch,words of affirmation,gifts,quality time and service of service, love is much more robust than that. The 5 languages are mutually exclusive, all are important but just of varying degree.

Yes, "touch" is my top priority but I need my love ones to spend quality time with me as well, to listen to my silly muses,share a cup of hot chocolate,explore new eating hideouts or just lie on the sofa, reading or just doing nothing. I value the act of service like being there when life hits the hardest and words of affirmation that everything will be alright. Gifts that don't have to be expensive like a card or flowers to spring a surprise to a boring day at work or to remind me 'I love you'. So ultimately, all 5 are important, just to what extent.

Time reveals who really love you when they say they do, crisis makes their love shine amongst others, especially when they put you above all things, even themselves.

Happy 4th Month my boy!

Time really flies. It has been a wonderful 4 months.

Dearest Tyler,

You have grown so much (literally as well) and become so interactive. Love your chuckles and the way you try to imitate us. Mommy might have been quite caught up in making sure you are achieving your physical milestones, like : 'are u flipping', 'are you grabbing toys', 'are you sitting up' , 'are you kicking enough'...etc etc... Only to realise, it doesnt matter if you learn them and demonstrate those abilities one week later or earlier, it doesnt really make a difference 2-3 years down the road. When you go to school, teacher won't ask which week you learn to flip, seat or walk. When you go out to work, your employer wouldn't judge your capability by the number of As or distinctions you have achieved. Yes, they get you the job but ultimately, how u succeed depends very much on ur abilities and not your grades. Oh, but hey, you still have to study hard and smart in school my boy. Remind mommy, to enjoy you, every smile, every touch, every chuckle, every cry, everything about you.

Luv,
mommy

Happy Birthday my love !

One year older, one year wiser. More wrinkles to mark the many smiles you had this year. A special someone to share this day with you. Hope you enjoyed yourself with us.

Sun, sand and sea

Playtime for daddies and mommies and our lil' ones. It's good catching up. I am so blessed to have this bunch of friends.

Weekends

Almost the same, except now, we have to occasionally take turns to entertain him.

Us

Overheard:

"So Tyler is the focus of your life now?"

Da man: "No, my wife is still the focus, she is still the most important person in my life."

Normally, I will brush it off as sweet talk if he says it to me. However, hearing him say it to someone else, ever so earnestly, not knowing that I was listening, somehow it sounded very sweet.

Life can be simple

Sometimes, life simple pleasure comes free.